During the month of July, I was recovering from a difficult season. In June, it felt like every area in my life crumbled and I was left feeling so empty and lost. Job security, finances, future hopes and dreams seemed to diminished in the matters of seconds. Worry and fear slowly slipped in. I immediately had to take a trip to NJ to be with my family and get away from "everything". In the moments of sadness, I was able to recognize what I needed and what should be my main focus in life. That was: Jesus, family and community. These three things was what my soul needed and what I desperately wanted to grasp on during this time.
I knew I wanted to surround myself with women. Women who would help with the healing process of my heart. Women who would be a constant encouragement. Women who would listen to me and love me during this hurting time. And women who I can look up to and that will help me realize that this season is coming to an end and the next one is right around the corner.
I immediately started scheduling coffee dates. Come on...who does not like sharing a cup of coffee with your girlfriends!? I absolutely love it! It is so fun to sit on a couch, chat and be all comfy with a cup of coffee in hand. I sometimes had 4 coffee dates a week and I was more than okay with that. This is what I needed during this time. The coffee dates allowed me to grow deeper connections. I was able to talk about my fears and my past with no judgement. The more I spent time with these women, the more my heart became full. My desires started to change and my goals in life switched.
I am here to tell you that community and relationships matter so much. You do not have to be as extreme as I was with 4 times a week but meeting once a week with a girlfriend that is a positive influence would be much better for your soul than getting that work out in, doing laundry or running errands. Stop and make time for people. I promise it will be worth it.
Do you have a favorite coffee place?! Do you prefer getting coffee out or going to people's homes for coffee? I do think there is something special about sitting on someone's couch :).